What She Really Wants for Valentine’s Day
No, I won’t turn up my nose at flowers and chocolates, but since having babies my wish list has changed.
Collaboration Post by Nikki and Carina
1. Three uninterrupted hours at home.
Take the kids to the movies and get pizza, drive in circles, I seriously don’t care. Just give me 3 hours by myself to craft, drink a glass of wine in the bath, frolick barefoot through the house with no fear of stepping on LEGOs, or just whatever I want.
2. Set up a babysitting swap with our friends.
This shouldn't be solely my job. Find another parent friend (or a couple) and set up a night where they will watch our kids so we can have an evening to ourselves without paying for a sitter. We will return the favor for them another night.
3. That thing I sent you a link to last month.
It will still be a surprise, even if I picked it out. The surprise will be that you actually followed through.
4. Solo shopping trip to Target (+ a gift card!).
Send me off with a hot coffee and I’ll love you forever. If you also let me get a mani + pedi afterward I will definitely love you forever.
5. A free day. Just one free day.
Let me lay on the couch with a bag of peanut butter pretzels and the Amazon remote and you refill the kids’ Camelback every 7 minutes. I’ll see you after dinner.
6. You know that thing I keep asking for in the bedroom? Start doing it.
Yes, I do mean putting your socks in, not next to, the hamper. It would save me approximately 46 minutes every year (not that I calculated it or anything). That‘s time that could be spent doing that thing you keep asking for in the bedroom.
But what of romance, you ask? Let me drop some hard truths on you, dude. Most mothers of young children that we know are functioning at a resting pressure level that could crush carbon into diamonds. Anything you can do to lighten her load is going to show not only that you love her, but that you understand what she needs.
7. A day at the spa.
We really just want to get away. We do. But a full day of pampering? That's absolutely heavenly to us. If you go for the works (massage, facial, manicure, and pedicure) you will win husband of the month.
8. Something that will make our lives easier.
Robo vacuum anyone? I've been wanting one of these for years. I hate vacuuming. I mean, I would love a robot that would clean the whole house to be honest, but we all know that doesn't really exist.
It doesn't even have to be a robo vacuum. Get something that will make our lives easier in general. I've heard amazing things about those instapots. Do you know how nice it would be to make dinner quickly after a long day?
9. Speaking of chores, what about a maid service to deep clean the house every month?
Cleaning toilets is the worst. The grime behind the faucet? We usually don't notice. And let's be real, no one really wants to do THAT much detailing when you're dealing with kids. So how about hiring a maid that would come once a month for a year to do a super deep clean of the house. That would be amazing.
10. If you're going to buy me something, just make sure it's something I will actually use.
Moms are all about functionality.
A really soft spun, long cardigan I can wear around the house and cozy up in. While not everyone cares about ethical fashion, I personally do so I included a link for Everlane. BUT there are tons of standard not-so-ethical choices you can find at your local mall. Just think of something soft, comfortable, and easily washable.
A heated blanket (my personal can't go without item right now). You can get these just about anywhere, but I find Target has the best prices which is where I bought mine.
A weighted blanket to destress. I haven't tried one personally, but have heard amazing things about them. One of these has been on my wishlist for a few months now. They have them at Target, Brookstone, Bed, Bath, and Beyond, and a lot of places you can get last minute if you need to.
A really nice, warm pair of slippers. I have had a pair of Ugg slippers for years that I sometimes even wear out of the house to run errands.
A Sleepgram pillow. It's an awesome new pillow that actually gives you a better night's sleep and takes away anxiety. I've had mine for about a week now and my sleep has significantly improved - and better yet, it's fully customizable.
A nice set of new makeup brushes, but only if she's a makeup junkie. I personally am a makeup junkie and would love nothing more than a new set of makeup brushes. Somehow, I can just never find it in myself to buy them though. So buy them for me!
And if you still can't think of anything, just get a gift card. Really, I would love a $100 to some of my favorite places and a kid-free day to shop. Think of Sephora, Target, Nordstrom, Everlane, or anywhere else where she loves to shop. Just don't be mad if she finds something she loves more than the gift card has.